Happy Thanksgiving, American readers!

If you’re vibing on your day off, don’t let me interrupt.

If you’re wrapping up that last task, jotting down an idea that hit you while cooking, or using this ping-free time to do some strategic thinking, enjoy.

But if your brain is racing at 1K mph about work while you’re trying to be present with your loved ones, let’s have a quick chat and get you outta the spin cycle.

We’ve gotta notify your brain that it’s not only okay—but actually good—to put work away for a bit. Whatever it’s chewing on, it’s doing so because it thinks it’s important for your survival. Maybe you’re navigating layoffs, serving your first few clients, or leading a major initiative that’s gone sideways. Your brain knows this ties to basic needs like money, but also survival-adjacent things like belonging, and their workaholism cousins like external recognition. And it’s trying to “fix” whatever problem it perceives so you can be safe.

So first, thank your brain.

And then comfort it so it can relax, release the work stuff for now, and let you shift your energy elsewhere. You’re way too smart for broad platitudes, so you’ve gotta pick something specific and convincing. You’ll know it’s working if your headache melts, shoulders lower, and jaw unclenches.

Here are the top 5 reframes I use in my practice to help passionate powerhouses switch off their work brains and transition to life livin’. They’re effective because they position not-working as a brilliant professional strategy. Fight fire with fire.

1. Rest is necessary for performance. Strategic rest improves focus, decision-making, and long-term stamina. Your brain and body need real recovery time to operate at a high level.
2. Inspiration strikes when you’re not grinding. Stepping away activates different neural networks that support creativity. Your best ideas often show up when you stop trying so hard.
3. Diversifying your “life portfolio” builds resilience. When work isn’t your sole source of identity, stress has less power over your nervous system. Multiple pillars mean more stability and adaptability.
4. Gratitude unlocks growth. Gratitude shifts the brain out of threat mode and into possibility. Focusing on the abundance around you expands your capacity for new ideas and bolder action.
5. Presence strengthens relationships (your network). Deep presence builds trust and emotional safety. Being fully with someone is a gift for both of you. And yes, that person may connect you to your next opportunity down the line.

Now it’s your turn!

“Being present with my loved ones today is not only okay, but good for me because ________.”

Onward!
Grace

P.S. Are you at a career crossroads, with questions like “should I stay or should I go?” taking up your precious brainspace? I’m hosting a career workshop for Cornell alumni on December 16 to help spark clarity. Register here. If you’re not a Cornell alum, but need help with this topic, or think this workshop would benefit a group you’re part of, reply to this email!